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I've had so many aha moments while reading this. I relate so much, and I've also gained insights on how to position myself as I move forward in life. Thank you for writing about this!

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Thank you for reading and for your comment, Vladica.

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I’m sixty-seven years old, and parts of this describe the parent I might have been had I chosen to have children.

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Maybe. Or maybe much better.

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Maybe you’re right. I’m wonderful to my pets.

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I notice often that forgiveness becomes easier to access once we have fully allowed ourselves to feel the hurt, anger and sadness, and tended to those wounds within ourselves.

Such important work, beautifully explained.

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I agree, Vicki. Until we give ourselves that permission, it’s not easy to move on.

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Oct 22Liked by Selda Koydemir

Nice piece, I can definitely resonate. It's so difficult to let go of some frustrations and even anger but it's family, and ultimately as you say they're not perfect. As we're not.

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Thanks for this, Buse. I’m glad you liked it.

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Such a beautiful and moving post. This gave me some perspective and hope.

“It was like being handed an empty cup and being told to appreciate how shiny it was, even though we were thirsty.” What a wonderful way of describing childhood emotional needs!

Thank you for your writing.

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Thanks so much, Vishnu, for reading it. I’m glad it resonated!

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I think grandparents can be a great resource for raising kids, they might be able to offer things the parents haven’t realized yet, especially if the grandparents have grown emotionally etc since raising the now parents and can see where their previous shortcomings might be manifesting in the parents

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This is a good point, Stephen, thanks for sharing.

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