I felt like this was a well researched and well articulated article. Definitely critical understanding of how relationships play a dynamic role in self love. I would add that the popular adage always meant to me, that in objectives, the Self is the first relationship that we’re looking to heal and grow. Then we can more healthy connect with others. Obviously, we don’t live in a linear world, but in the abstract you need a healthy self before moving on to the next level of manifesting. Because the connection with others that we are talking about, is the connection of giving not taking. For taking, of course we need to connect with others, especially when we are young children. But in manifesting, we first need to give to ourselves before we give to others.
Really leaves room for a lot of discussion here. Thank you so much for this eye-opener.
Thank you, Isiah, for your comment. I believe that giving and taking most of the time go in parallel. When I talked about being in loving relationships, I didn't only mean being loved by others (taking) but also loving (giving). Our sense of self is shaped not only by receiving but also giving love (or compassion, acceptance etc.). But it's true that with a well grounded sense of self, we're more likely to have better relationships. What I don't like about these phrases is that they treat self-worth as a prerequisite of loving others.
This is such a rich topic. One point that I always thought was true, is that oftentime if we don’t truly love ourselves then when we are loving another it’s really not true love. It’s more coming from an insecurity. I know there’s so much more to unpack, but that’s the idea in short.
I felt like this was a well researched and well articulated article. Definitely critical understanding of how relationships play a dynamic role in self love. I would add that the popular adage always meant to me, that in objectives, the Self is the first relationship that we’re looking to heal and grow. Then we can more healthy connect with others. Obviously, we don’t live in a linear world, but in the abstract you need a healthy self before moving on to the next level of manifesting. Because the connection with others that we are talking about, is the connection of giving not taking. For taking, of course we need to connect with others, especially when we are young children. But in manifesting, we first need to give to ourselves before we give to others.
Really leaves room for a lot of discussion here. Thank you so much for this eye-opener.
Thank you, Isiah, for your comment. I believe that giving and taking most of the time go in parallel. When I talked about being in loving relationships, I didn't only mean being loved by others (taking) but also loving (giving). Our sense of self is shaped not only by receiving but also giving love (or compassion, acceptance etc.). But it's true that with a well grounded sense of self, we're more likely to have better relationships. What I don't like about these phrases is that they treat self-worth as a prerequisite of loving others.
This is such a rich topic. One point that I always thought was true, is that oftentime if we don’t truly love ourselves then when we are loving another it’s really not true love. It’s more coming from an insecurity. I know there’s so much more to unpack, but that’s the idea in short.