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Mary A's avatar

Another insightful piece! Thanks for your great writing, it's very much appreciated.

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Selda Koydemir's avatar

Thanks, Mary, much appreciated!

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Rafael Concepcion's avatar

This post opens up channels to things I’d never thought about very much in the past. Thank you very much.

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Selda Koydemir's avatar

Thank you Rafael 🙏

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Cary's avatar

There's a great quotation from Dune, from the Bene Gesserit, if I recall, if you know anything about the Dune series. And it goes something like, "learn what your enemies hate, by this you will know them."

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Cary's avatar

So, the punchline there, which I forgot, is that if it works for your enemies, it works for your friends, and it works for you too. I don't want anyone to think that we should think of ourselves as our own enemies, although sometimes we are, I suppose.

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jeanne's avatar

You were lucky to be on a subway in London and not in New York, where other passengers might have given you good reason to be annoyed.

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Selda Koydemir's avatar

Like what?

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jeanne's avatar

The NY subway has military present to protect the public from aggression. It did recently. Does the London subway experience similar? Perhaps I was wrong in assuming London to be more peaceful. I understand you were referring more to the concept of projection, but there are other factors regarding annoyance when on a subway where there is the potential for violence. I hope my comments are not politically incorrect. I was just adding these thoughts to indicate there may also be concrete reasons for feeling annoyance too. Thanks for your post.

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Selda Koydemir's avatar

Not at all. I was genuinely curious about what it’s like over there. The last time I took the underground (sorry, subway!) in New York was about 20 years ago. Sounds like things have gotten a bit rough. And I get that there are far more important reasons behind it than just my own annoyance on that train (and yes, my example was about something else, but still). We have similar, aggressive experiences here too, though maybe not as frequently.

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jeanne's avatar

🙏🏽☮️♥️🖖🏽

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Shadow Rebbe's avatar

I've always wondered how this applies to political hatred

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