Welcome to Modern Virtue!
I’m Selda Koydemir, a psychotherapist, researcher, and lecturer based in London, with a PhD in mental health counselling and over 20 years of experience.
But most importantly, I’m someone who’s endlessly curious about what makes life meaningful, relationships rich, and wellbeing sustainable.
I’m also known for calling out pop psychology myths and quick fixes, loving solitude, collecting bookmarks, and enjoying other people’s dogs.
Modern Virtue isn’t your typical space for self-help advice or oversimplified solutions. It’s where I explore the deeper questions about mental health, emotional resilience, and how to live a fulfilling life.
I draw from psychological science, philosophy, and my own work as a therapist to offer perspectives that I hope will challenge and inspire you.
If you’re tired of surface-level content and looking for something different, you’re in the right place.
You can either become a free or a paid subscriber.
Free subscribers get:
Weekly posts that dig into topics like mental health, relationships, virtues, and how to live a life that truly matters.
Paid subscribers get:
Full access to the archive
Subscriber-only posts for a deeper dive
A personalised answer to one of your questions via email each month
And, of course, my gratitude for supporting this space
Even if you’re just here to read and share, that means the world to me. You can support Modern Virtue by liking, sharing, and recommending posts to others who’d appreciate them.
Here are a few of my latest (free) posts:
The problem with self improvement
We all need a little self-criticism, just not a bully
The unspoken price of growth and healing
Making sense of our parents’ imperfections
Pure acceptance in relationships is not realistic
Why do some emotions stay longer?
To find more about me, feel free to visit seldakoydemir.com.
