Welcome to Modern Virtue with Dr. Selda Koydemir!

This is a space where you gain access to my explorations on Mental Health, Emotions, Relationships, Personality, Happiness, and Virtues.

I named this Substack “Modern Virtue” because I wanted to capture the timeless pursuit of virtue, reimagined for our modern world. It’s an invitation to embrace the complexities of contemporary life while staying grounded in what has always mattered: growth, values, wisdom, and resilience.

If you’re tired of surface-level content and seeking discussions that move beyond simplistic explanations of human behaviour and interpersonal relationships, you’re in the right place.

I’m a psychotherapist, researcher, and lecturer based in London, and have over 20 years of experience. But most importantly, I’m someone who’s endlessly curious about what makes life meaningful, relationships rich, and wellbeing sustainable. I’m also known for calling out pop psychology myths and quick fixes, loving solitude, collecting bookmarks, and enjoying other people’s dogs.

Drawing from psychological science and my experiences as a psychotherapist, I aim to offer perspectives that will both challenge and inspire you.

What to expect

Free subscribers get 3-4 posts per month with thought provoking ideas and discussions, as well as strategies.

Paid subscribers get exclusive, subscriber-only posts on top of free posts. They also gain full access to the archive.


☕️ If you like my work and want to support it, you can also just buy me a cup of coffee.


Here are a few of my latest (free) posts:

Why do other people annoy us

The resentment you don’t see coming

How a single word can unstuck us

What it really means to grow up

Why people are losing trust in psychotherapy

“I’ve changed and I’m terrified”

The problem with self improvement

We all need a little self-criticism, just not a bully

The opposite of worry

The unspoken price of growth and healing

Making sense of our parents’ imperfections

Why we take things personally


To find more about me, feel free to visit seldakoydemir.com.


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Deep dives into emotional wellbeing, relationships, and mental health, challenging popular psychology myths. I blend research with my work as a therapist to provide insights into life.

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Psychotherapist, lecturer, and researcher for 20+ years. Deeply interested in emotional and social wellbeing. Advocate for proactive mental health.